What If You Had Not Existed?
No, I am not asking some sort of weird existentialist question here, or anything too strange. I am really just asking this: if you had died young, or were not born at all, would it have made a notable difference in this world? Would your absence have made much of an impact on anyone else?
I guess what I am doing here is asking you to assess your life in the light of eternity. Have you left a godly spiritual footprint behind? Have you lived in such a way that many lives were touched that otherwise would not have been? Would your absence have had a real impact on others?
I ask all this because last night a memory of something I did long ago came back to me. I have recalled it a few times before, but I thought about it quite a bit last night. My recollection was this: as a young boy I almost got killed. The episode went something like this:
I was maybe seven or eight or so and out with a few friends on our bicycles. For some reason I thought it would be neat to speed through one alley, zoom across the street, and keep going in the next alley. So I did, only to hear a car slamming on its brakes and beeping its horn just metres away from me.
Had I entered the street a second earlier, or had the driver been less alert, I could easily have been killed. It shook me up for a while afterwards, not so much because I might have been road kill, but because I knew it was a bad and foolish thing to have done.
So that recollection last night got me thinking about my life and my Christian ministry. I simply had to work backwards from the present till then (a period of well over five decades) to see all the obvious changes. Let me share a few of them here. The first and most obvious one is this: you would not be reading this article right now!
Indeed, you would not have read any of the other 4367 articles I wrote. There would be no such thing as CultureWatch. So any article of mine that made an impact on you for good or ill would not have existed. Any talk I gave, any interview I did, any book I wrote, or any media appearance I was part of would not have taken place.
I certainly would have been a non-entity in Australia, and only a few Americans, such as my brother and sister, might still think about me now and then. Needless to say the Australian woman who met me in Europe and eventually married me would not have done so. She would either have found someone else to marry, or remained single.
My three children would of course not exist. And perhaps some of my old hippy friends would not have become Christians back in America, since I was the first one in our group to do so. Various ministries I was involved in, Bible studies that I led over the years, and small groups and discipleship groups also would not have occurred – at least not with me.
All sorts of things would have been different. Some would have been somewhat inconsequential, such as fewer Krispy Kreme donuts sold, fewer Costco laksas sold, or quite a few less books sold! Some Christian bookstores would have fared less well because of my absence!
Of course if my life being snuffed out early on meant that many would not have benefited in certain ways or been blessed in certain ways, it also means some would not have been harmed in certain ways. Alas, I have not always been a force for good in the world, and I would have said and done many things over the years that I now regret.
So it would have been a mixed bag to be honest. But hopefully my life did some good over the years, mainly for Christ and the kingdom. One day obviously I will know full well just how good or bad my life was altogether when I stand before my maker and my judge.
But spending a bit of time now looking back over your life may not be a bad idea. Maybe some course directions are needed. Maybe various attitude adjustments are needed. Maybe even career paths or ministry works need to be reconsidered.
A spiritual check-up is always useful. It helps to give us perspective and hopefully helps us to make any necessary changes. And for those who are bummed out and discouraged, thinking their life has been a waste, such an assessment also can be quite helpful.
We have an obvious example of this in one classic movie from long ago. James Stewart and Donna Reed starred in the 1946 Frank Capra film, It’s a Wonderful Life. Stewart plays George Bailey who is depressed and suicidal. He thinks everyone including himself would have been better off had he never been born.
So he is about to take his life on Christmas Eve. Thankfully some divine intervention occurs: his guardian angel Clarence appears and shows him all the people he has made a positive impact on over the years, and how very different things would be like if he had never been born.
Says Clarence: “Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?” Now just in case you are one of those rare birds that have not yet seen the film, I will not give any more away, but yes it does have a happy ending.
Would that we all could have such a close look at our lives and the impact we have had before we die. And on a much bigger scale we could ask, What if Jesus had never been born? And of course there is a 1994 book with that very title by D. James Kennedy. It is one of a number of books that have looked at this theme. See here for more such titles: https://billmuehlenberg.com/2018/02/03/review-unimaginable-jeremiah-johnstone/
There is no question that the world would be unrecognisable if Jesus had not been born. But the question for you and I is how different would the world be if we were not born, or died very early on. It is good to stop once in a while and to take a spiritual check-up.
We need to periodically take stock of where we are at and what sort of life we are living, especially in light of eternity. And we always need to remember that every day we live is a day of grace. We need to spend each day wisely. Time is short. We will soon be gone.
The Bible often speaks to these basic truths. Consider just two familiar passages from the psalmist:
Show me, Lord, my life’s end
and the number of my days;
let me know how fleeting my life is.
You have made my days a mere handbreadth;
the span of my years is as nothing before you.
Everyone is but a breath,
even those who seem secure. (Psalm 39:4-5)
So teach us to number our days,
That we may present to You a heart of wisdom.
And I said, “What shall I cry?”
“All people are like grass,
and all their faithfulness is like the flowers of the field.
The grass withers and the flowers fall,
because the breath of the Lord blows on them.
Surely the people are grass.
The grass withers and the flowers fall,
but the word of our God endures forever.” (Psalm 90:12)
We should not wait until judgment day to have a thorough assessment and evaluation of how we are living our lives. We need to take time out of our busy schedules once in a while to do a spiritual stocktake. We need to see just what sort of impact we are making on others.
I encourage you to stop what you are doing and prayerfully consider your life, asking God to highlight where you are at, and to pinpoint any changes or adjustments that need to be made. You will be glad you did.
10 Replies to “What If You Had Not Existed?”
So true, as you say, that we won’t get the full picture until we stand before our maker and judge. I have been blessed, though, to know of just one life I have touched. I lived in a university residential college for a number of years when studying for my teaching degree and one day I remember seeing one of the other residents looking sad, lost and quite alone. I knew her only by name but nothing else about her. On impulse, I asked this complete stranger to be the one person to come with me back home the following weekend to stay over with me and my family to celebrate my 21st birthday. I have always been a bit of a loner so hadn’t intended asking anyone else. Anyway, she came, and through the years we have seen little of each other, and still know little of each other (she lives in WA) but she has kept in touch every year by sending me a Christmas card. It was only a few years ago that she told me that if it hadn’t been for my invitation, she was planning on taking her own life that weekend. This always comes to mind when I watch ‘It’s a Wonderful Life.’
I have to be honest here, I really don’t think my existence has made much difference to the world…not as an individual. Maybe as part of a group, working in collaboration with others; but not singly. I have very rarely stood out as an individual, in terms of achievement in any aspect of life. Maybe some of us are just “groupies”, so to speak….we pass by unnoticed, often reserved in character, and we just slot into group activities where God asks for us to do so. Maybe the groups wouldn’t exist without us!
Years ago I received a letter from one of my former year seven students telling me that she’d just become a Christian and that I had started her on that journey. Whilst her letter gave me great joy, I did wonder about my other many hundreds of students. By God’s grace may they all come to know and glorify Him in due time.
In It’s a Wonderful Life the angel shows Bailey what it would have happened if he had never been born. Among many other things, he is startled to see his wife going home alone from the library as an old maid. As someone once said: “You may be just one person in the world, but you may be all the world to one person.”
God bless you Bill. Thank you!
Once again your words ring true, particularly for me, as the last few years my spirit has been more restless and have often wondered what I am doing here and what can I do. Taken to the challenge earlier this year to read through the bible (for the first time), I have noticed already a deeper and more profound relationship with my Father, of course, you and anyone who has earnestly read through the bible would attest. This has sparked a genuine desire to learn more and get involved more seriously, perhaps even embark into apologetics. For this, I would like to thank you Bill for your articles, as they have encouraged me personally on many levels to seek the Lord and understand His clear instruction without prejudice. Regardless of what ‘I’ think, all that matters is what the Lord says, Matthew 24:35, Heaven and earth will pass away but My words will never pass away.
In fact, this brings me to an article I read recently where a journalist, Laurie Goodstein (I will omit ‘investigative’ as one would need to actually investigate claims made by individuals before asserting their claims), wrote a politically correct article called ‘Three Clergymen, Three Faiths, One Friendship’ in 2009. On face value is seems so peaceable, friendly and uniting, but not long into the article one finds the darker more sinister truth. She goes on to report what each prelate regard as untruths for their faith. The [Christian] minister stated that one “untruth” for him was that “Christianity is the only way to God.” The rabbi said for him it was the notion of Jews as “the chosen people.” And the sheik said for him it was the “sword verses” in the Koran, like “kill the unbeliever.” I was shocked to read that a person claiming to be a ‘Christian’, let alone a minister of the faith, would believe this statement. One quick reference in the bible will refute this claim instantly, John 14:6, Jesus answered, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. Should you or anyone wish to read the article rebutting Ms Goodstein, link below.
Thank you Lord for saving Bill on all those occasions so they he could write this article, along with all the other 4367 articles. God bless you Bill!
Many thanks guys!
Thanks for this article. It’s A Wonderful Life is one of my favourite movies,
Apart from this, there have been times in my life when I have wondered whether it mattered whether I existed.