Life is full of things we may covet, long for, desire, seek, thirst after, and dream of. But of course not everything we keenly desire is obtainable, at least by normal means – and moral means. We can get many things in life, but not always by doing the right thing.
For example, if I really desired to get a fancy $200,000 sports car (and I don’t), I could likely never get it. Sure, I could always sell my house, dump my wife and kids out on the streets, take the cash, and get my dream car. I suppose folks have done things like that, but I would never stoop so low. Nor would most folks, hopefully.
A common way to get what you want – without working for it or earning it – is to just grab it, often by killing the one who has it. A mugger might get $50 by murdering someone on the streets and stealing his wallet. A drug cartel could obtain a nifty mansion by killing its occupants and simply moving in.
There is no end to what we might get if we simply killed those who stood in our way. Sure, that is normally illegal and unethical, but that has not stopped so many people from going after what they want – regardless of the cost. Far too many folks are willing to do almost anything if it means getting what they really desire.
So where am I going with all this? Let me tell you: how often is an abortion just another form of all this? The sad truth is, for many women seeking an abortion, it is because having a baby is an inconvenience, an unwanted interruption, an intrusion into their life, a block to their career, a hindrance to their pleasure, and so on.
Sure, some women may be forced into it, but overwhelmingly abortion is after-the-fact contraception. It is desired because the baby is simply unwanted. And often this is because a woman prefers getting her career set up and established, and maybe later on she may have thoughts about children and family.
And it is not just bad old prolifers like myself who are saying this. We constantly hear of women who have said exactly this: they had to have an abortion so they could advance their career, do well in life, get that new house, and so on. They freely admit to why they had their own baby killed.
Consider a very clear example of this from one high-flying career woman who actually boasted about her abortion – and for this very reason. She actually sought to justify killing her baby because she could not have gotten into her terrific lifestyle without it.
I refer to Cindi Leive, a “media and publishing executive, and a former editor in chief of Glamour and Self.” In a June 30 piece for The New York Times she had an article which was all about one thing: defending her abortion, and using her spiffy career as a major reason for why it was essential.
The piece is called “Let’s Talk About My Abortion (and Yours)”. You can read the piece for yourself, but let me just pull out one short quote from it:
I recently told my own 15-year-old daughter about the choice I’d made. To my surprise, I cried as I described my life that year — the confusion, my mother’s illness — and though she was just a kid, not much younger than I had been then, she wiped my tears. I told her that I felt immense gratitude for the life I have been able to build, for the two children I’ve been able to care and provide for, for the marriage I could choose freely, for the dreams I was able to pursue. And all of it, I told her, was made possible by my right to decide when I was ready to be a mother.
As we all know, the most horrible things we can do as human beings are always covered over by euphemisms and a complete lack of straight talk. So instead of telling us she had a terrific career because she killed her own child, she talks about “my right to decide when I was ready to be a mother.”
Um, the time for being responsible is when you jump in bed with a guy. That is when you are to make proper choices. Simply killing the product of your bad choices does nothing to ameliorate the evil that has taken place. As mentioned, some women are forced into having an abortion.
That was certainly not the case here. What we had was a free and deliberate decision to end a life so that a woman could follow her dreams and make it big in the world. In my books, that “choice” is no more morally superior to the cases I offered above.
We can always get what we want if we take extreme measures. And that can include killing the person who stands in your way of following your dreams and realising your desires. Most of society frowns on that sort of behaviour. But when it comes to abortion, we seem to lose our moral compass altogether.
As commentator Micaiah Bilger said about this case:
The truth is that, for many women, abortion is not a choice. Many are forced or coerced into aborting their unborn babies. Others willingly make the choice only to regret it deeply for the rest of their lives. Many of these women suffer because they realize the truth too late. An abortion involves more than just a woman’s life and choices. It involves two lives, hers and her unborn baby’s. And destroying one human being’s life for the convenience of another’s should never be an acceptable option.
No it shouldn’t. Not even to become editor in chief of Glamour and Self. And that second title really does say it all, doesn’t it?