Those Poor Delicate Dandelions

Back in 2007 Diana West wrote an important volume entitled The Death of the Grownup. In it she lamented the fact that an entire generation of adults are stuck in adolescence. They have refused to grow up, to take personal responsibility for their lives, and they expect the state to look after them from cradle to grave. This is the entitlement generation gone ballistic.

She begins her book with these words:

Once there was a world without teenagers. Literally. “Teenager,” the word itself, doesn’t pop into the lexicon much before 1941. This speaks volumes about the last few millennia. In all those many centuries, nobody thought to mention ‘teenagers’ because there was nothing, apparently, to think of mentioning.
In considering what I like to call ‘the death of the grown-up,’ it’s important to keep a fix on this fact: that for all but this most recent episode of human history, there were children and there were adults. Children in their teen years aspired to adulthood; significantly, they didn’t aspire to adolescence. Certainly, adults didn’t aspire to remain teenagers.

offence-1Now we have a mega-teen culture which the entire world orbits around, and we have millions of adults who are stuck in perpetual adolescence, seeking to remain teens. Coupled with all this is the out-of-control offence industry which says we have a fundamental right to never be offended, never to feel bad, and never to have our feelings hurt.

That has resulted in a generation of wilted dandelions and precious pansies. A bunch of spoiled brats in other words. Writing in The Times, Helen Rumbelow speaks about “generation snowflake,” a term now widely used for the coddled, spoiled narcissists of today. She comments:

The term “generation snowflake” started in America. Parents cherished their offspring as “precious little snowflakes”, each alike but unique, or “everyone is special” as they sing in the cartoon South Park. When those smothered infants grew into adults they were lampooned by the same parental generation for melting at any small amount of difficulty. “Snowflake” is just a fancy word for “drip”.

And this has led to a host of zany new ideas, complete with zany new titles: “They have spawned a new lexicon. Generation snowflake was one of Collins Dictionary’s 2016 words of the year, but with it came the phrases ‘check your privilege’, ‘safe spaces’ and ‘trigger warnings’.”

We see this everywhere in action, especially with the recent election of Trump. Teens, millennials, college kids and even adults are all acting like delicate dandelions, throwing hissing fits, carrying on like cry-babies, and refusing to act as adults. College campuses have been among the worst, with “cry-ins” and other pathetic displays of infantile behaviour.

The College Fix describes some of the more outrageous examples of this:

The Cornell Daily Sun reports that students hosted a “Cry In” on the quad Wednesday in the wake of the presidential election results…. As the event took place, students — roughly 20 or so, according to the Sun’s video — wrote their reactions and emotions on poster boards with colored markers, or with chalk on the ground. A chilly day on the Ithaca campus, at one point the demonstrators huddled together as what appeared to be a barista brought them warm drinks.

A dorm at the University of Pennsylvania on Wednesday hosted a post-election “Breathing Space” for students stressed out by election results that included cuddling with cats and a puppy, coloring and crafting, and snacks such as tea and chocolate. The event at the Ivy League institution was hosted by the faculty director of Fisher Hassenfeld College House.
“There were actual cats and a puppy there,” Penn student Daniel Tancredi told The College Fix via email. “There were sheets of paper available with black and white printed designs on them for students to color in. Essentially they looked like pages from a coloring book that were printed from a computer. They all had positive feel-good messages on them. Students colored them in with colored pencils.”

Another write-up is equally depressing to read:

So it begins: American college campuses are currently experiencing a collective freak-out over the impending Trump presidency. Professors and administrators have cancelled exams and sent messages of support to students feeling traumatized by the election results.
A University of Michigan psychology professor delayed an exam until next week and wished students good fortune during this “tumultuous time.” Some Columbia University professors postponed midterms as well. A University of Connecticut professor excused students from attending class. And at Yale University, one professor decided to make an upcoming exam optional. Administrators were quick to reassure students that universities offer myriad counseling options.

At least one Iowa lawmaker has had enough of all this moonbattery on our campuses, and is seeking to do something about it:

Following Donald Trump’s win in Tuesday’s presidential election, many high school and college students were having a tough time dealing with the reality of the results. There were reports of mass walkouts, protests and students gathering on campuses to mourn Hillary Clinton’s loss in what were termed, “cry-ins.”
In some cases, schools accommodated student requests to delay exams, cancelled classes and reportedly provided grief counseling to distraught members of the staff and student body. After hearing about state schools in Iowa coddling students, creating safe zones, cancelling exams, etc., Bobby Kaufmann, a member of the Iowa State house, decided he had seen enough.
Kaufmann, Chairman of the Iowa House Oversight Committee, has announced he is going to open an investigation into the state schools, hoping to learn just how many taxpayer dollars were wasted on the “cry baby” reactions to Trump’s victory over Clinton.
Speaking with WHO Radio’s Simon Conway, Kaufman explained his plan to co-sponsor the “Suck It Up, Buttercup” Bill. The proposed legislation would identify the monies spent by state schools on activities deemed to be a waste of money. The state would then penalize those schools by cutting triple the amount of money wasted from the 2017 budget.

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And we have all seen the riots on the streets of America. Protestors are telling us that hate and rage is unacceptable, as they go about smashing windows, burning flags and acting like neo-Nazis in fits of hate and rage. They shout about the need for an America free of fear and violence, as they engage in acts of fearsome violence.

All because we have an entire generation of adults who refuse to act and think like adults. So this narcissistic and infantile culture is spreading and getting worse. It is not just the millennials who are guilty of all this: much of the blame lies with their parents.

And this atrocious behaviour of adults who refuse to grow up and take responsibility for their lives is now being manifest on the national level as well, with governments refusing to excise mature leadership. West concludes her book with these words:

What to do? It’s not enough to yell “stop,” or even “grow up.” It’s a start, though, if, in the process, we withstand the likely excruciating growing pains to undertake a serious, candid reexamination of the human condition, circa twenty-first century: as parents who need to guide children to maturity; as individuals who need to reimpose boundaries on personal behaviour; and as nation states that need to reassert border control and enforce immigration policies that preserve, rather than transform, this uniquely Western culture. Such an undertaking begins by breaking our silence. And breaking our silence begins by conquering our fears. Which is also a part of growing up. We have nothing to lose. It should now be clear that the civilization that forever dodges maturity will never live to a ripe old age.

Yes quite so. Whether we can reverse this destructive trend remains to be seen. But let me conclude with a brief but humourous video clip which may better convey the point I am trying to make here. It nicely highlights the delicate state of not just so many millennials but so many adults as well. You will laugh at it, but also likely cry, since it cuts so close to the bone:

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11 Replies to “Those Poor Delicate Dandelions”

  1. Of course this was all prophesied. The scriptures tell us about the lack of respect and input from fathers and the general disrespect for men (Isa 3:12). This generation suffers from a completely irrational hatred of anything “paternalistic.” This relates to one of the basic differences between mothers and fathers. Some mothers are fine but many coddle their children in an attempt to “protect” them from the world. On the other end of the spectrum a few mothers, in an attempt to toughen their children end up being simply unjust and teach their children nothing. The middle road is what much of good fatherhood is about. Being just and there to pick up the pieces as necessary but also prepared to advance and develop the skills their children will need to cope well in the world.

    Mal_4:6 And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the sons, and the heart of the sons to their fathers, that I not come and strike the earth with utter destruction.

    Luk_1:17 And he shall go before Him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.

    Compare this to what Paul said about his day:-

    Heb_12:9 Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh who corrected us, and we gave them reverence. Shall we not much rather be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?


  2. Hi, Bill, Thirty five years ago I owned a little Christian bookstore. The top selling books at that time were about dying to self, self-sacrifice, being humble, etc. Andrew Murray had a wonderful book about this subject. A. B. Simpson had a little tract entitled “31 Kings of Self” [this one is still around, I haven’t found Andrew Murray’s book.] The present day offering in most Christian bookstores emphasize success in daily life, being happy, getting your prayers answered, etc. I know we hash the modern day church, but that is where death to self used to be taught. It’s been decades since I’ve heard a teaching or sermon on the subject. It isn’t even respected when seen in the lives of others. But as a precious Bible teacher I had one time told me, “If you are the only one on earth living in obedience to God, then you will be the only one on earth who is truly right with God.” I thought of Noah and Enoch and so many others who have gone before us. Somehow or other I believe young people today would love to live a life of self-giving and self-sacrifice. The problem is getting the message to them! We have a lot of praying to do. God bless.

  3. You know how the left wingers are wearing safety pins to indicate they stand against xenophobia, homophobia, racism, sexism, ableism ( whatever that is!)? I saw a great comment on a post discussing the safety pins –

    “Call them what they are – diaper pins for all the big babies out there…”

  4. If only there had been counsellors available to me during the election counting nights over the years, first on the radio and then on television, when the numbers went to leftist leaders, and of course they would have been there for others if conservative leaders won. Imagine the rush for tranquillisers and sedatives if the Governor-General were to dismiss a Labor Prime Minister today! The ladies (and the men) would be almost evaporating with the vapours.

    I always thought trigger warnings were to do with being careful when handling guns. And a safe place was the spot behind the gun. I think I’ll just have to keep growing old relatively gracefully and be thankful I won’t have to live through the world that is waiting for my grandchildren. But poor them (excuse the grammar).

  5. These students ‘take offence’ to the point where they can only reach their full potential by existing in an echo chamber, a utopia that only the tax payer can provide for – and things like these ‘cry ins’ are ‘rights’ at institutions of higher learning.

    $60k spent on a kindy education – and $150k earned by several people each to lecture it – whom are not then ‘really’ Marxists y’know.

    Thanks and God Bless Bill.

  6. Yo! Jo Deller. That’s what they are – big babies.
    Some Scriptures that come to mind. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. The law of the Lord is clean enduring forever. Knowing the terror (yes, Paul said terror) of the Lord, we persuade men, be reconciled to God! We grew up in the ends of a generation nurtured by a generation or two that was born in the wake of the mighty ministry of Whitefield and his like. Those men of God lived in the world of Moses, Elijah, and Jesus. Deuteronomy 32 the Song of Moses (it talks about ‘their wine is the wine of Sodom) towards the end has these words God spoke “I kill and I make alive, I wound and I heal!” and “If I whet My glittering sword and My hand take hold on judgment…!” This is the offence of the gospel. We as a people of God have given heed to man. The church must get maturity and take the brunt of rejection by man in order to say it AS it is. Not like it is. Cursed is the man who trusts in man. What is man… Why be afraid of man whose breath is in his nostrils. Have we the courage? they will rock us. We need an Acts 4:24 determination. Thanks Bill – and I think we can thank Freud and Jung and the Christians who ‘incorporated’ these insights from God rejecting immoral intellectuals into their own true views of man which came from a holy God. Grieve for these adult kids who cannot see what they have lost because of the faithlessness they have inherited. Only the gospel which sanctifies will heal the hurt of the daughter of My people says the Lord.

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