The Facts on Fatherlessness, Part One

The poor fatherless baby of eight months is now the utterly broken-hearted and crushed widow of forty-two! My life as a happy one is ended! the world is gone for me! If I must live on (and I will do nothing to make me worse than I am), it is henceforth for our poor fatherless children – for my unhappy country, which has lost all in losing him — and in only doing what I know and feel he would wish.” Queen Victoria, 1861

Fatherlessness is a growing problem in Australia and the Western world. Whether caused by divorce and broken families, or by deliberate single parenting, more and more children grow up without fathers. Indeed, 85 per cent of single parent families are fatherless families.

Writing about the situation in America in 1996, sociologist David Popenoe said this: “The decline of fatherhood is one of the most basic, unexpected, and extraordinary social trends of our time. Its dimensions can be captured in a single statistic: In just three decades, between 1960 and 1990, the percentage of U.S. children living apart from their biological fathers more than doubled, from 17 percent to 36 percent. By the turn of the century, nearly 50 percent of American children may be going to sleep each evening without being able to say good night to their dads.”

And these trends are not without negative consequences. Father absence has been shown to be a major disadvantage to the well-being of children. The following is a summary of the evidence for the importance of fathers and the need for two-parent families.

One expert from Harvard medical school who has studied over 40 years of research on the question of parental absence and children’s well-being said this: “What has been shown over and over again to contribute most to the emotional development of the child is a close, warm, sustained and continuous relationship with both parents.” Or as David Blankenhorn has stated in Fatherless America: “Fatherlessness is the most harmful demographic trend of this generation.”

Another expert puts it this way: “There exists today no greater single threat to the long-term well-being of children, our communities, or our nation, than the increasing number of children being raised without a committed, responsible, and loving father.”

Bryan Rodgers of the Australian National University has recently re-examined the Australian research. Says Rodgers: “Australian studies with adequate samples have shown parental divorce to be a risk factor for a wide range of social and psychological problems in adolescence and adulthood, including poor academic achievement, low self-esteem, psychological distress, delinquency and recidivism, substance use and abuse, sexual precocity, adult criminal offending, depression, and suicidal behaviour.” He concludes: “There is no scientific justification for disregarding the public health significance of marital dissolution in Australia, especially with respect to mental health.”

A New Zealand summary of the data based on national and international research conducted over the past two decades also found major positive outcomes for children when fathers are present, and negative outcomes when fathers are absent. The report states:

“The weight of the evidence is that fathers can make unique, direct contributions to their children’s well-being. These findings held true after controlling for a range of factors, including mothers’ involvement, children’s characteristics, children’s early behavioural problems, family income, socio-economic status over time, stepfather involvement and family structure.” It goes on to list the many specific ways in which fathers positively contribute to the well-being of children.

And the importance of fathers is neither a recent nor a merely Western truth. The need and importance of fathers is an historical and universal given. As anthropologist Bronislaw Malinowski put it, “The most important moral and legal rule concerning the physiological side of kinship is that no child should be brought into the world without a man – and one man at that. . . . I think that this generalization amounts to a universal sociological law.” There may be cultural variations, yet “through all the variations there runs the rule that the father is indispensable for the full sociological status of the child as well as its mother, that the group consisting of a woman and her offspring is sociologically incomplete and illegitimate.”

Here then is a sampling of the evidence:

Economic difficulties

  • In America, among families with dependent children, only 8.3 per cent of married couples were living below the poverty line, compared to 47.1 percent of female-headed households.
  • Also in the US, a nationally representative sample found this: “In 2005, the median income for married couples was $66,067, which was $35,000 more than the median income for single mothers, $19,000 more than that of single fathers, $43,000 more than that of single women, and $24,000 more than that of single men. Married couples made up 79 percent of the highest quintile income and 17.9 percent of the lowest income quintile.”
  • In Australia, a recent study of 500 divorcees with children five to eight years after the separation found that four in five divorced mothers were dependent on social security after their marriages dissolved.
  • Figures from Monash University’s Centre for Population and Urban Research show that family break-up, rather than unemployment, is the main cause of the rise in poverty levels in Australia.
  • A joint report from AMP Life and Canberra University’s National Centre for Social and Economic Modelling says that divorce leaves both partners worse off economically, but women tend to experience the biggest fall in disposable income.
  • A recent US study “found that by far the ‘biggest factor’ associated with child poverty in a county is the proportion of households headed by unwed mothers with children under 18 years of age.” They established that every 1 percentage-point increase in these households correlates with a 1.2 percentage-point increase in the county’s child-poverty rate.

Educational performance

  • American children from intact families have a 21 per cent chance of dropping out of high school whereas children from broken families have a 46 per cent chance.
  • American school children who became father-absent early in life generally scored significantly lower on measures of IQ and achievement tests.
  • A recent Concordia University found clear positive effects of a father’s influence on the behavioural and cognitive development of children. For example, “for both boys and girls, fathers’ positive parental control predicted higher Performance IQ and fewer internalizing problems over six years later.”
  • A study of Australian primary school children from three family types (married heterosexual couples, cohabiting heterosexual couples and homosexual couples) found that in every area of educational endeavour (language; mathematics; social studies; sport; class work, sociability and popularity; and attitudes to learning), children from married heterosexual couples performed better than the other two groups. The study concludes with these words: “Married couples seem to offer the best environment for a child’s social and educational development”.
  • A Melbourne University study of 212 children found that fathers, even more than mothers, had a major beneficial influence on children in their first year of school. The study found that kids with regular father involvement were more cooperative and self-reliant in school than kids who did not have father involvement. The more regular involvement the father has with the child, the study’s author said, the better the child does in his or her first year of school.

Criminal involvement

  • A British study found a direct statistical link between single parenthood and virtually every major type of crime, including mugging, violence against strangers, car theft and burglary.
  • Also in the UK, studies have shown that “children from broken homes are nine times more likely to commit crimes than those from stable families” and “seven out of 10 offenders come from broken homes”.
  • One American study even arrived at this startling conclusion: the proportion of single-parent households in a community predicts its rates of violent crime and burglary, but the community’s poverty level does not. Neither poverty nor race seem to account very much for the crime rate, compared to the proportion of single parent families.
  • In Australia, a recent book noted the connection between broken families and crime. In a discussion of rising crime rates in Western Australia, the book reported that “family breakdown in the form of divorce and separation is the main cause of the crime wave”.
  • Maryland researchers found that bullying and aggressive behaviour are associated with family breakdown. This is especially the cause of girls’ aggressiveness: “the percentage of single men and mother-alone families rival neighborhood violence as providing the most explanatory power” for aggressiveness among girls.

Involvement with drugs and alcohol

  • A UCLA study pointed out that inadequate family structure makes children more susceptible to drug use “as a coping mechanism to relieve depression and anxiety.”
  • Another US study found that among the homes with strict fathers, only 18 per cent had children who used alcohol or drugs at all. In contrast, among mother-dominated homes, 35 per cent had children who used drugs frequently.
  • A National Institutes of Health study showed a clear connection between non-intact families and child drug abuse: “Our analyses indicated that children from intact families used significantly less inhalants, marijuana, and amphetamines than children from single-parent families.”
  • A New Zealand study of nearly 1000 children observed over a period of 15 years found that children who have watched their parents separate are more likely to use illegal drugs than those whose parents stay together.
  • A South African study found that teens from single parent homes were more likely to consume alcohol and do so from an earlier age. Of those who ever drank, 81 per cent of the teens aged 16-18 lived with parents who were divorced compared to 51 per cent of students whose parents were married and living together.

Sexual problems

  • Studies from many different cultures have found that girls raised without fathers are more likely to be sexually active, and to start early sexual activity. Father-deprived girls “show precocious sexual interest, derogation of masculinity and males, and poor ability to maintain sexual and emotional adjustment with one male”.
  • A US study found that girls who grow up without fathers were “53 percent more likely to marry as teenagers, 111 percent more likely to have children as teenagers, 164 percent more likely to have a premarital birth, and 92 percent more likely to dissolve their own marriages.”
  • Another US study made this conclusion: “youth who spend part of their childhood/youth living in a household that does not include their biological father are more likely to smoke regularly, become sexually active, and be convicted of a crime.”
  • New Zealand research has found that the absence of a father is a major factor in the early onset of puberty and teenage pregnancy. Dr Bruce Ellis, Psychologist in Sexual Development at the University of Canterbury in Christchurch found that one of the most important factors in determining early menarche is the father: “There seems to be something special about the role of fathers in regulating daughters sexual development”.
  • A British study found that girls brought up by lone parents were twice as likely to leave home by the age of 18 as the daughters of intact homes; were three times as likely to be cohabiting by the age of 20; and almost three times as likely to have a birth out of wedlock.

Part Two is here:

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7 Replies to “The Facts on Fatherlessness, Part One”

  1. The data from these studies demonstrates the vital importance of the father in a family for the well being of children. It should not be too much to ask that a father and mother endeavour to provide a low conflict environment in which to raise their children so that the entire family benefits. The fact that it does appear to be too much to ask shows that we have much to learn about the way of giving rather than getting.

    Meanwhile Western governments are pressing ahead with the re-definition (or undefinition) of marriage, the consequence of which would bring about Genderless Marriage. Professor John Millbank (Nottingham University UK) floats the idea that same sex marriage, far from being about same sex rights, is more about a bio political tyranny to destroy marriage and the family as the most fundamental mediating social instituation; the modern state’s drive to assume direct control over reproduction of the population, bypassing our personal encounters.

    Giving the benefit of the doubt, maybe governments would see this kind of State control as a solution to the insurmountable problems of the global economy, population and poverty but the net result would be that each individual would be cut adrift from their family and answerable to the State. It is chilling to think how many more messed up minds that would entail.

    We all need to be able to get our marriages together before governments step in to take over the ailing institution (if, they haven’t done so already). The world is strewn with broken vows and each one of us needs to address urgently how we can revive the present state of terminal decline of faithful marriage.

    Rachel Smith

  2. Thank you very much Bill
    This is well documented.
    It is also very sad, so much pain and suffering with next to zero thought for the child.
    If only there were some thought for the child’s growth.
    Daniel Kempton

  3. I have heard about these statistics for a while now. While they are wonderfully encouraging for intact families, but what hope is there for single parent families? I had no choice in becoming a single parent yet I am saddled with a great burden knowing they are now severely disadvantaged by their father’s selfish choices. I have a strong faith which guides me yet even in this area statistics show that children in families where the Father doesn’t attend church, there is little hope they will follow in their Mother’s footsteps. So where is the hope for people like me?
    Jo Green

  4. Thanks Jo

    You raise some important issues here. Of course in one sense, we are all born into a fallen world so we all have to cope with that which is less than ideal. So people may be born into single parent homes, some may be born missing a limb, or some may be born into suffocating poverty, and so on. We all have to deal with what we are handed, and God in his grace certainly can help us overcome our adverse circumstances.

    Also, to talk about the importance of two-parent families is not to bash single-parents, many of whom through no real fault of their own find themselves in that place. Perhaps through death or desertion, they find themselves raising kids all by themselves. They have twice the work and half the resources. So they need all the help they can get. And groups like Focus on the Family have heaps of great resources for single parents.

    And the main point of this article is to warn against those who would deliberately bring children into the world without both parents. The lesbians and singles who choose to do so with no intention of having both biological parents around are the ones I am concerned about here. They differ quite a bit as I said from those who find themselves without a husband or a wife – usually by accident, death, desertion, etc.

    So in terms of public policy we should discourage bringing kids into the world without both parents wherever possible, but in terms of practical support, various groups exists to help the very needy single parent families which are out there.

    Bill Muehlenberg, CultureWatch

  5. I have just written to the whole of the Parliamentarians, regarding the lame change of heart of Mr. Kevin Rudd and to say that I am aggrieved by his statement today that he has seen the light and now has gone to the other side in support of g.y marriage (I cannot bear that word in it’s new coat) is as intolerable as the act of sodomy itself, and then to claim that he supports that Holy Union between those misguided and hurt people is further abuse against that which is normal. And on the issues of fatherless children i have seen endless examples of what occurs when fathers (in fact both mums and dads as GOD intended) are missing,this was conveyed to me during some 25 years of youth work, in street work, 14 years in Turana Youth Training Centre,and 5 years in The YMCA. So in short once again The Bible is totally True and correct, in it’s direction of what should be. This was all prior to becoming a CHRISTian, but now it is clearer than ever, with GOD’s light and clarity on the subject.

    Francis Colosimo

  6. My wife and I (with the help of other volunteers) run a teen mum support home. We have worked with 5 young women and their children over the last 18th months – all of whom have had missing or abusive fathers. It is dawning on me how important my role is: within a week of the most promising young woman leaving us to go flatting (she was with us for 16 months) she was back in bed with another guy 🙁 Very discouraging, and obviously a very wounded girl. The Lord help us show a different way to live and raise our young.

  7. Today our message at church was on Abba Father as daddy. Having an intimate relationship with God not only just as father but as daddy. Whilst I’m listening I’m thinking how do we explain this in terms for the next generation who will be bought up with 2 mothers? Even if the household is such a child should have a relationship with their biological father. It’s heartbreaking enough for divorced children, Single parents and widows without a deliberate ceasing of the male parent being in a child’s life. ?

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