Fathers: A Threatened Species

My wife recently pointed out an interesting fact to me – as she often does. Two national days are celebrated in Australia within the same week, and sometimes they even fall on the very same day. The first is Father’s Day, which is celebrated in Australia on the first Sunday of September.

And then we have September 7, which is National Threatened Species Day in Australia. As one write-up states, “Threatened Species Day was declared in 1996 to commemorate the 60th anniversary of the death of the last remaining Tasmanian tiger (also known as the thylacine) at Hobart Zoo in 1936.”

The incisive point she was trying to make is pretty obvious: fathers are going the way of the dodo – another extinct species. Or to keep the Australian context going, dads are going the way of the Darling Downs hopping-mouse, or Notomys mordax, last seen in 1846.

Because of various militant activist movements of the past decades such as radical feminism, cultural Marxism, the homosexual agenda, and now transgenderism, the father is quickly becoming a threatened species. All these revolutionary movements are waging a concentrated war against dads.

Of course with the trans lunacy growing by leaps and bounds, it is not just fathers, but all sorts of other things that may well soon be extinct: mothers, children, gender, biology, and reality itself are all under massive threat. Now all these things are very much at risk.

To see how utterly bizarre and insane this is, just imagine telling someone a century ago that you would eventually have to defend things like the traditional family, or even the notion of there being two sexes. People would have thought you were mad if you insisted back then that one day all this and more would come under massive attack by radical ideologues.

Sadly this is where we are now at. I have often compared this to having to defend something as obvious and self-evident as eating or breathing. Um, these sorts of things are simply something that everyone just DOES, and there is no need at all to defend them or stand up for them. At least there SHOULD not be any need for this.

But until recently that was where we were at with the basic institutions of marriage and family, and things like male and female. They were just givens which pretty much everyone accepted and expected. One no more had to go to the trenches in defending male and female than in defending the necessity of breathing – just do it.

However we now live in the most radical and revolutionary of times, where everything is coming under assault, and all former verities are being challenged as being outdated, repressive, bigoted, discriminatory and so on. Nothing is safe anymore, and the endangered species list continues to lengthen.

I fully expect that real soon I will have to give an account of myself, and defend the fact that I breathe. How dare I assume that everyone is a breather? How can I be so bigoted? How dare I impose my outdated beliefs on everyone else? Why am I such a dinosaur to hold to such a narrowminded and outdated concept? I need to repent for being a breathophile!

That is exactly where we are now at in the marriage wars, the family wars, and the gender wars. Everything is up for grabs and there is no normalcy to any of it. There is no truth, there is no reality – we are just making things up as we go along.

That of course is always a dangerous place to be in, and it simply will keep spiralling out of control until civilisation itself becomes another thing on the list of what has become extinct. Or people will hopefully begin to wake up to all this madness and start fighting back, reclaiming normality, reality and basic biology.

And some have woken up. Today we have a number of groups and movements to defend what was until recently just assumed and enjoyed. Now we have to defend fathers and the very concept of fatherhood. Now we actually have to stand up in public and restate the obvious – in this case, that dads are vitally important.

In Australia one key group working with this threatened species is the Fatherhood Foundation. Founded by Warwick Marsh, who is a superb father and grandfather, this is one of a number of key groups which now sadly have had to come into existence, simply to defend dads and the notion of fatherhood. You can see their site here: https://www.fatherhood.org.au/

They do an excellent job in so many areas. But if you go by much of the intelligentsia, the mainstream media, most of academia, and too many politicians, they will be seen as harmful, reactionary, and even dangerous. They will be painted as blocking progress and obstructing justice – all because they dare to claim that dads matter.

Their site is well worth looking at, as it contains heaps of terrific and very helpful resources. Even those who are not dads will find so much of use there. Let me highlight just one resource. Some years ago I helped them prepare a research paper documenting the very real benefits of fathers, and the very real harm children experience with father absence. https://www.fatherhood.org.au/resources/FACTS-ON-FATHERLESSNESS.pdf

The document opens with the following:

Fatherlessness is a growing problem in Australia and the Western world. Whether caused by divorce and broken families, or by deliberate single parenting, more and more children grow up without fathers. Indeed, 85 per cent of single parent families are fatherless families.

It demonstrates the tremendous value of fathers, and how children suffer in their absence. It looks at how fatherlessness increases poverty and lowers educational performance. It documents how fatherlessness also greatly increases the likelihood of these things happening: crime, sexual problems, drug abuse, and physical and mental health problems.

As the evidence makes perfectly clear, fatherlessness and family breakdown are major social problems of our society. Sure, single parents need all the help they can get, and if a dad has died or deserted a family, then single mothers really need real support and assistance.

They are doing twice the work with only half the resources. But we as a society should be encouraging as much as possible intact, two-parent families where both mother and father are present. Societies function best when that is the norm.

The piece concludes with these words:

Wade Horn, the head of the National Fatherhood Initiative in the USA offers this concluding word: “The news is not good when large numbers of children are growing up disconnected from their fathers. It’s not that every child who grows up in a fatherless household is going to have these kinds of difficulties. But it is true that there’s an increased risk of these negative outcomes when kids grow up without fathers.”

With the rise of fatherlessness Australia and the Western world has also experienced a marked rise in social problems. And the brunt of these problems has been borne by children. We owe it to our children to do better. We urgently need to address the twin problems of fatherlessness and family breakdown. Public policy must begin to address these crucial areas. Until we tackle these problems, our children and our societies will continue to suffer.

There is a great amount of research that backs up what is found in that document. Indeed, there is a massive amount of social science research which has been making the case for the importance of fathers. This data has been around for quite some time now.

If you wanted just one more helpful summary of the data, this brief piece is worth looking at as well: https://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/06/the-distinct-positive-impact-of-a-good-dad/276874/

Now, are there dads who do not lift their weight, or who are less than ideal? Sure: sadly there are dead-beat dads, and absent dads, and even abusive dads. But exceptions do not make the rule. Overwhelmingly the social science research is clear: fathers make a tremendous positive difference in the lives of their children, and to society itself.

If you are a dad, about to be a dad, or thinking of becoming a dad, ignore all the social activists, the revolutionaries, and the radical ideologues: fathers are vitally important. The very notion of fatherhood – along with motherhood – is the bedrock of society.

Whether you live in Australia or not, Happy Father’s Day.

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7 Replies to “Fathers: A Threatened Species”

  1. Thank you, Bill, for another timely and much-needed article. Your comment about the social problems encouraged or perhaps caused by homes without fathers is in agreement with a statement by Doctor Drew, the psychologist/psychiatrist (?) who has a program on American television. A few years ago Doctor Drew had an episode about the importance of fathers and the social ills caused by an imbalance in the father-son relationship. He said the imbalance can and does result in a significant number of young men who do not believe they have earned their fathers’ approval. Because of this feeling of inadequacy, he said troubled young men tend to venture into six categories of abnormal behavior. He listed these as (1) mental illness, (2) homosexuality, (3) substance abuse, (4) domestic violence, (5) crime, and (6) gangs. He further explained that the young men try to find a sense of belonging (approval and acceptance) by aligning themselves with some of the categories. As one example, he explained that young men may seek acceptance or security from other men through homosexual relationships. Others may be heterosexual, but they will seek a sense of belonging and acceptance through gangs. In some of the other categories, they try to mask feelings of inadequacy by becoming involved in crime, drugs, violence, and domestic abuse. He also said young men may identify too much with a criminal, violence, or abusive father and become criminal, violent, or abusive themselves.

    Dr. Drew explained that young men need to have their fathers’ approval and acceptance to develop the self-confidence and independence necessary to make a normal transition into adulthood. This achievement usually happens by age 21. He further stated it usually is at about this age that young men tend to develop the problems associated with any one of the six categories listed above.

    Dr. Drew did not indicate that being without a father is so much of a problem, provided a young man has had adequate and socially acceptable male role models throughout life. He said a major problem is caused by overbearing or overly critical fathers who hinder or destroy the sons’ development of self-confidence. As I reflect on individuals I have known throughout my life, I believe there is a lot of truth in these observations and that a certain percentage of young men somehow fail to make the appropriate transition into adulthood. It is rather difficult to explain this scenario, but I hope my comments have given your readers something to consider.

  2. Thanks Sheila. Yes, I am with you for the most part. However, the last point of Dr Drew that you mention may be somewhat amiss according to the social science data. The research is pretty clear that children do not need mere male role models – they need their actual biological fathers. The two are not equivalent. Sure, there can be some lousy dads and there can be some great male role models. But the ideal as the research shows over and over again is for a child to be raised by his own biological father – and biological mother as well, preferably cemented by marriage. This is what results in the best outcomes for children overall.

  3. Well said, Bill. The Left is out to destroy families and negate the role of good men.

  4. I remember reading in a book called ‘The Faith of Christopher Hitchens’ by Alex Taunton, in the chapter ‘Honor The Father’, when a mother converts to Christianity, 17 percent of the children of the time children do. When the father does, the figure rises to an astonishing 93 percent. The author used this source- http://www.bpnews.net/15630.

  5. Recently picked up secondhand copy of David Blankenhorn’s Fatherless America, published 1995 – a prophetic work, chilling in its implications.

  6. One of the biggest problems I see when it comes to being a good Dad is domineering wives. So many men I know have been cowed into submission by their wives. They only discipline as their wife allows them to discipline, they surrender majority if not full control of the household finances to their wife, and they always defend their wife’s decisions over the children even when they believe the wife’s decision is fundamentally wrong. This leads to children despising their weak Dad. I asked a church elder for advise once when my wife and I were having difficulty reaching a mutually acceptable decision. I must have touched a raw nerve for he exploded. “You have to give in, you have to give in or your marriage is over, you have to give in”. I was shocked. The emotion and pain in his voice. Right there and then I determined I would never be a dominated husband even if it did cost me my marriage. I am very happy to report being a strong benevolent husband has worked wonders. A word of caution though. For many men I can see achieving equal decision making ability; much more becoming the head of their family; a monumentally difficult task. I have particular advantages in my marriage (my wife’s character being a major one) that many men do not. Men if you are going to try and change the decision making balance in your marriage so that you at least have equal authority, proceed extremely carefully. One of the biggest problems I see is men are not educated to understand and deal with a manipulative woman of which sadly there are many out there* Men and women think and act differently and so many men become utterly bewildered when trying to reason and understand a difficult woman. I find us men really struggle; especially when we are young; to deal with situations and people that leave our head spinning. Putting it bluntly an irrational woman bewilders the daylights out of us. Just as women need to learn how to identify and respond appropriately to a controlling and/or abusive husband, so too, men need to learn how to identify and respond to a manipulative wife. Tragically both happen.
    * My acknowledgements to the many fine women out there who build their house up instead of tearing their house down, who help their husband be a better man from a supporting role rather than forcing their husband to change to their desired image for a man (which crushes the spirit of so many men). You are not only benefiting yourself, you are providing an invaluable gift to your children. Your sons and daughters are far more likely to be discerning when choosing a life partner and far more likely to deal appropriately with a partners foibles because of your example. Same with Dads who are responsible, who lead at their level and who pursue and impart the wisdom they have learnt.

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