Sometimes We Just Need To Ignore Our Critics
Some things are worth fighting for. Some things are worth taking a stand on, even if it means a lot of backlash, abuse and opposition. As someone involved in pro-faith, pro-family and pro-freedom activism for a number of decades now, I have experienced my fair share of abuse and hate.
It is expected of course from the secular lefties. But sadly one can get just as much from the religious lefties. Both arms of the left seem to operate using similar tactics and methods to silence others and avoid actual debate. Ad hominem attacks and the like are common, and for the religious lefty a few other tactics can be quite common.
One is to play the ‘we are more Christlike or more moral or more compassionate than you are’ card. If we do not buy their preferred political and economic options, such as various forms of socialism, we are said to be un-Christlike. But never mind the fact that Jesus of course was not a socialist, nor were the disciples.
They also try to take the moral high ground, claiming we are wasting time by being concerned about such things as the slaughter of the unborn, the war on marriage and family, the steady spread of stealth jihad, etc. Because we care about things like pornography, homosexuality and abortion, they claim we are hung up on “personal morality” issues.
And when we actually use facts and evidence, refuting their silliness with strong argumentation, they pull the cry-baby routine: ‘you are hurting my feelings; you offended me’ you are not being very Christlike or compassionate’ etc. I get this all the time from these guys.
It is a terrific conversation stopper. It is a swell way to close down any debate. Just start whining about how you are a victim and how a few words made you feel bad. That beats dealing with the issues. These evangellyfish will even go ballistic if you call them evangellyfish.
Instead of getting a bit of righteous indignation over millions of dead babies, Christians being tortured and killed around the world, or marriage and family being savaged, they will throw a hissy fit over a bit of rhetoric. That tells me all I need to know about their priorities.
I really tire of such folks to be honest. The truth is, as Mark Steyn rightly put it, “The left does not want to win the debate, it wants to shut down the debate.” Yes, they seem uninterested in actually debating, and instead throw out these complaints about being hurt by what is being said.
As to the use of rhetoric, they are simply wrong when they claim a spirited debate is somehow unbecoming of a believer. The Bible is full of strong rhetoric. The prophets, Jesus and the disciples all employed it regularly, as I explain here: https://billmuehlenberg.com/2007/04/18/rhetoric-the-bible-and-the-believer/
I recently came upon two excellent articles, both by David French which also deal with some of these matters. He is worth quoting from in both pieces. His first is “Christians, Don’t Fall for the ‘Compassion’ Trap”. He must have the same experiences that I do, since he quotes some lefty Christians and their criticisms, and they sound just like what I get. He begins:
As I mentioned in my piece on the home page, I’ve been saddened at the number of Christians who either sit out the battle for religious liberty entirely or actively take the other side. In my piece today I tried to address those who claim that the threats to religious liberty are no big deal and that religious liberty legislation is a solution in search of a problem. But here I want to briefly address a different objection — that advocating for religious liberty or opposing the latest advance of the sexual revolution doesn’t present Christians as “compassionate” or “loving.”
He quotes a lefty who says that by standing against the homosexual activists, etc, we are not being “loving”. The critic also regurgitates the old furphy about Christians not being called to change society, etc. Try telling that one to Wilberforce for starters. French continues:
You’ll see a number of variations on this same theme whenever there’s an argument about religious liberty — especially when religious liberty conflicts with sexual liberty. Christians should love the opposition, and to some people loving the opposition means either sitting out the fight or watering down the message to the point of impotence. I have a few objections.
First, there is no inconsistency between defending our culture from the latest sexual “reform” and loving our neighbors. It is compassionate to women and children to argue that governments and businesses shouldn’t render them more vulnerable to sexual predators. And if you believe the words of the Bible, there is nothing compassionate about acquiescing in the latest cultural demand to normalize immoral and troubled behavior. Yes, transgender men and women need the love of Jesus, but if by our words or deeds we contribute to the notion that their “transitions” are perfectly acceptable, we’re contributing to their own tragic self-mutilation.
Second, when one actively opposes Christians who are seeking to preserve religious liberty and opposing the relentless march of sexual decadence, then they marginalize and isolate their own brothers and sisters. For those few Christians who have the courage to stand against censorship, there is nothing more discouraging than enduring opposition and vitriol from fellow believers. I’ll never forget comforting a sobbing Christian client who filed suit to allow her Christian club to stay on campus — only to wake up the next morning to discover that a coalition of pastors and ministry leaders were the first to oppose her.
His conclusion is spot on:
I see the appeal of the “loving” approach. Very few people relish these kinds of conflict, and it’s never fun to be labeled a bigot. Moreover, it’s intoxicating to hear the Left’s applause. They always like the “thinking” Christian who sees things their way. But these Christians are loved not because they’re pulling secular progressives closer to Jesus. Instead, the Left loves those who help them win.
His second article is entitled “Small Acts of Cowardice Are Destroying Our Culture”. As I have often said, I can understand why 98% of Christians will never speak out on the vital issues of the day. All the criticism, hatred and nastiness you get can put anyone off. And when it is mainly armchair Christian critics blasting you for what you do, while they do nothing, that especially hurts.
No wonder I so often just want to give up altogether. The constant complaints and attacks and abuse really can take their toll. But Jesus did not give up on me, so how can I give up on him? French has similar things to say:
Early this morning I was reading Rod Dreher’s blog at the American Conservative and stumbled across yet another dispatch from the utterly absurd bathroom wars. One of his New York City readers wrote in to say that her 14-year-old daughter had just finished dressing in a city locker room when a grown man stepped from the showers wearing only a towel. Girls as young as seven were present, and they were staring at the man with “concerned expressions.” The reader ends her e-mail with, “It sucks to be a parent these days.”
And indeed it does suck, especially when you know that even your friends and alleged allies are simply too timid to act. Dreher describes speaking to parents who tried to organize resistance to new “trans” bathroom policies but found they “couldn’t get anybody interested.” I’ve had the same conversation with other frustrated parents. They look for help in the fight — even from people who they know oppose this idiocy — and no one will stand up.
This is how culture wars are lost: through the slow accumulation of individually defensible but collectively unjustifiable decisions not to resist. It’s the decision that objecting during diversity training simply isn’t worth the hassle. It’s the decision not to say anything when you see a colleague or fellow student facing persecution because of their beliefs. It’s a life habit of always taking the path of least resistance, keeping your head down, and doing your best to preserve your own family and career. The small fights don’t matter anyway, right?
He continues:
On campus, liberal students find no shortage of progressive professors who are willing and eager to enable their advocacy, and even join in campus protests. Conservative students, by contrast, find that their few ideologically sympathetic professors tend to shun controversy. Even fellow conservative students largely stay out of campus battles, preferring to keep their heads down, graduate, and join the “real world” with their records intact.
The contrast with the Left is profound. For progressives, no issue is too small to address and there is no such thing as just letting an injustice pass. The result is an unrelenting, grinding, one-way campaign of social change, conducted with an air of moral superiority and cultural condescension. It remains daunting right up until enough people put aside their cowardice and reasonable resistance prevails.
I like his conclusion:
I’ve often found myself thinking of William Butler Yeats’s classic poem, “The Second Coming.” In it, Yeats ponders societal collapse, writing: “Things fall apart; the center cannot hold.” In our nation, the center didn’t even try to hold. The “reasonable” people made the easy choice to go with the flow of cultural upheaval. These are the “best” people, those with good jobs, good families, and sensible thoughts. But, as Yeats understood, there are times when the so-called best fail. They “lack all conviction,” surrendering the field to the worst, those “full of passionate intensity.”
As I say, it is no fun fighting the left. They fight dirty, and will resort to any lowdown tactic to win. And sadly many in the religious left seem little better. They will try to convince you that Jesus would never protest outside of an abortion clinic or boycott a pro-homosexual business allowing men into girls’ bathrooms.
And yet they will happily inform us that of course Jesus would join in a revolutionary guerrilla movement, or occupy the offices of transnational corporations. They seem to have a stranglehold on who Jesus is and what he would do. And there is no question that folks like Wilberforce received exactly the same criticism:
‘Now Wilby ol’ chap, don’t you know that Jesus loves the slave owners, and by being so political, you are not showing the love and compassion of Jesus? Plus all your abolition activity is such a waste of time: we should just be preaching the gospel to these folks instead. So be more like Jesus and stop this angry activism.’
I have a feeling God does indeed care about things like the slaughter of unborn babies, the full-frontal assault on his institutions of marriage and family, and so on. He cares, and we should care. So my advice is to just ignore the religious lefties who will forever criticise you, pretending they are somehow morally superior and more like Jesus.
We have a job to do, and protecting our loved ones, our children, and our unborn is a big part of it. So keep on keeping on, and don’t worry about the left and their constant carping.
http://www.nationalreview.com/corner/434734/christians-dont-fall-compassion-trap
http://www.nationalreview.com/article/434827/individual-cowardice-killing-american-culture?lZdz3YbOK1C3jSGq.01
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I like this article Bill. It is a kind of summary article putting the issues clearly and definitively; the life threatening issues. No one would disagree that abortion is a life threatening issue unless they dispute the premise. That is the only way they get out of the killing fields. No one would deny that same-sex sex defies the norm; unless they dispute the norm. That is their default position. But, and there is sometimes a but. What does God think? If one denied God there is no problem; at least not for God. We honor you Lord and we thank you.
2Pe 2:6 And turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah into ashes, He condemned them with an overthrow, setting an example to men intending to live ungodly.
2Pe 2:7 And He delivered righteous Lot, oppressed with the lustful behavior of the lawless.
2Pe 2:8 For that righteous one living among them, in seeing and hearing, his righteous soul was tormented from day to day with their unlawful deeds.
2Pe 2:9 The Lord knows how to deliver the godly out of temptation, and to reserve the unjust for a day of judgment, to be punished,
2Pe 2:10 and especially those who walk after the flesh in the lust of uncleanness, and despise dominion. They are darers, self-pleasing; not trembling at glories, speaking evil.
2Pe 2:11 Where angels, who are greater in power and might, do not bring a reproaching accusation against them before the Lord.
2Pe 2:12 But these, as unreasoning natural brute animals having been born for capture and corruption, speak evil of the things that they do not understand. And they will utterly perish in their own corruption,
2Pe 2:13 being about to receive the wages of unrighteousness, deeming indulgence as pleasure in the daytime, and reveling in spots and blemishes, feasting along with you in their deceits,
2Pe 2:14 having eyes full of adultery and never ceasing from sin, alluring unstable souls, having a heart exercised with covetousness. They are cursed children
2Pe 2:15 who have forsaken the right way and have gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Beor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness,
2Pe 2:16 but had reproof of his lawbreaking, a dumb ass speaking in a man’s voice, held back the madness of the prophet.
2Pe 2:17 These are wells without water, clouds driven with a tempest, for whom the blackness of darkness is reserved forever.
2Pe 2:18 For when they speak great swelling words of vanity, they lure through the lusts of the flesh, by unbridled lust, the ones who were escaping from those who live in error;
2Pe 2:19 promising them liberty, they themselves are the slaves of corruption. For by whom anyone has been overcome, even to this one he has been enslaved.
2Pe 2:20 For if they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the full knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and are again entangled, they have been overcome by these, their last things are worse than the first.
2Pe 2:21 For it would have been better for them not to have fully known the way of righteousness, than fully knowing it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered to them.
2Pe 2:22 But the word of the true proverb has happened to them: The dog turning to his own vomit; and, The washed sow to wallowing in the mire.
(MKJV)
I am increasingly getting the ” Gays have already won, gay marriage is inevitable and if they want to love each other, let them” spiel from teenage family members who should know better and am so saddened to see it. Any pleas and arguments are falling on deaf ears. What is it about this generation? Is adoration, “likes” and approval from peers more important now than when we were younger?
I even a copped a very abusive and shocking character assassination by another family member in public when I tried to explain why it’s crucial to hold firm against gay marriage and the herd of bystanders stood by and acted as though it didn’t happen.
Not that it will stop me.
Some good news it seems:
http://honisoit.com/2016/05/usu-backtracks-on-threat-to-deregister-eu/
Thank you for standing for the Christian lifestyle according to scripture. While many are screaming about their right to their lifestyle that they have chosen, God in His infinite wisdom has given man the freedom of choice. Christians must daily make the choice by their lifestyle to follow Christ according to scripture. All who choose to do their own lifestyle will receive the consequences of their choice.
At The Question Evolution Project, I have quite a few liberal professing Christians who take issue with my stance on biblical creation science. On more than one occasion, vicious attacks have been indistinguishable between those and from professing atheists! Some of these liberal religious folks say that we hinder the gospel because we believe the Bible says what it means, beginning in Genesis, and do not believe that God’s Word should be subordinate to the ever-changing philosophies of man-made science.
The issue for us, whether in creation science or the areas you’ve mentioned, is ultimately the authority of Scripture.
I agree with Anonymous. ‘Likes’ from peers do seem to be ultra important. That is because, I would submit, they have suffered the shattering of trust that goes with family break- up. The insecurity this generates must be overwhelming as young people try to normalise their heartbreak. Something as fleeting as an argument can have catastrophic, long term consequences. I have experienced temporary family bust- ups but they have been patched up and forgotten. All exceptions acknowledged, I suspect this original disillusionment has triggered a search for new identities, realities and relationships. Saying sorry, forgiveness, love and faithfulness to your chosen life partner and compassion for your children is an answer.
Thanks Bill for yet another insightful and positive article.
Off topic but has just beern reported by Truth Revolt site that Ted Cruz has officially dropped out of the presidential race, according to his campaign manager Jeff Roe.
A sad day for the country you love!
Roy Ford
Thanks Roy. Yes a very sad day indeed, as I discuss here:
https://billmuehlenberg.com/2016/05/04/trump-vs-hillary-god-forsakes-nation/
“…individually defensible but collectively unjustifiable decisions not to resist…” sums up the individual’s dilemma precisely. Thanks for all your good work Bill.
Thanks Terry.