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Let the Children Speak

Mar 20, 2015

These are the forgotten people. These are the silenced people. These are the people who are not supposed to exist. The militant homosexual movement does everything they can to persuade us that they don’t even exist. And if it turns out that they do exist, the militants will do everything they can to demonise them, discredit them, and deride them.

I refer of course to all the children raised in homosexual households who refuse to stay in the closet and say it was all a wonderful experience and all sweetness and light. Instead, they have the courage and the boldness to tell the truth – the truth that things were actually pretty lousy, and they would not wish this on any other child.

One gal who did this some years ago is still receiving abuse for her bravery. Dawn Stefanowicz wrote a whole book about her unpleasant upbringing with homosexual “parents”. See my review here: billmuehlenberg.com/2009/10/25/a-review-of-out-from-under-the-impact-of-homosexual-parenting-by-dawn-stefanowicz/

And there are others. For example, I discuss some more of them in this recent article: billmuehlenberg.com/2015/02/03/homosexual-marriage-listen-to-the-children/

But following the brouhaha over the remarks of two famous Italian homosexuals, even more have come out taking a stand against homosexual marriage and adoption rights. The pair of course are renowned fashionistas Dolce and Gabbana. I discuss their brave remarks here: billmuehlenberg.com/2015/03/17/homosexual-truth-tellers/

The gay mafia went ballistic over their pro-marriage and pro-family remarks, with folks like Elton John demanding a boycott of their products. But courage exemplified results in more folks mustering the courage to speak truth in the public arena, despite all the inevitable hate and abuse.

For example, six people who endured all this came out with a public letter, giving their side of the story. It begins:

Greetings from the United States. The six signers of this letter were all raised by gay and lesbian parents. Five of us are women and one is a queer man, though we all raised our children with their opposite-sex parents. We want to thank you for giving voice to something that we learned by experience: Every human being has a mother and a father, and to cut either from a child’s life is to rob the child of dignity, humanity, and equality.
We know that gay parents can be loving, since we loved our parents and they loved us. Nonetheless, we have all had firsthand experience with the harsh backlash that follows when the dominant view of “gay parenting” as universally positive is questioned. We know that you will come under tremendous pressure, especially now when both Italy and the United States are being pushed to override our concerns for our rights to a mom and dad, in order to please a powerful gay lobby.
Nobody receives more vicious attacks from the lobby than those who come from the gay community and question its policies: children of gay couples just as much as the gay men who defend them (like the two of you). In all likelihood many in the international community will try to get your shows cancelled, your advertisements censored, and your reputation destroyed online. You have shown yourselves to be extremely brave. You have given us great inspiration as all six of us prepare to submit letters to the US Supreme Court against gay marriage.
We want to praise your courage and thank you for your inspiration. We also implore you not to surrender when the backlash grows in intensity. If you back down from what you said and apologize, it will leave the children of gay homes even more vulnerable and discredited. It is important for our sake, for the sake of Italian children as well, that you not apologize or capitulate. Please support the idea that all children need to be bonded with their mothers and fathers. It is a human right.
If we can help you in any way, please, let us know. We are not all Christian but we want to send you our blessings, and we promise that we will be lifelong buyers of Dolce and Gabbana from now on.

barwick, heatherOne of the six contributors is Heather Barwick. She has written at length about this and is worth quoting in part:

It’s only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting.
Growing up, and even into my 20s, I supported and advocated for gay marriage. It’s only with some time and distance from my childhood that I’m able to reflect on my experiences and recognize the long-term consequences that same-sex parenting had on me. And it’s only now, as I watch my children loving and being loved by their father each day, that I can see the beauty and wisdom in traditional marriage and parenting.
Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not. A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.
I grew up surrounded by women who said they didn’t need or want a man. Yet, as a little girl, I so desperately wanted a daddy. It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary. There were times I felt so angry with my dad for not being there for me, and then times I felt angry with myself for even wanting a father to begin with. There are parts of me that still grieve over that loss today.

She continues:

Gay marriage doesn’t just redefine marriage, but also parenting. It promotes and normalizes a family structure that necessarily denies us something precious and foundational. It denies us something we need and long for, while at the same time tells us that we don’t need what we naturally crave. That we will be okay. But we’re not. We’re hurting.
If anyone can talk about hard things, it’s us.
Kids of divorced parents are allowed to say, “Hey, mom and dad, I love you, but the divorce crushed me and has been so hard. It shattered my trust and made me feel like it was my fault. It is so hard living in two different houses.” Kids of adoption are allowed to say, “Hey, adoptive parents, I love you. But this is really hard for me. I suffer because my relationship with my first parents was broken. I’m confused and I miss them even though I’ve never met them.”
But children of same-sex parents haven’t been given the same voice. It’s not just me. There are so many of us. Many of us are too scared to speak up and tell you about our hurt and pain, because for whatever reason it feels like you’re not listening. That you don’t want to hear. If we say we are hurting because we were raised by same-sex parents, we are either ignored or labeled a hater.

Finally, two others share their story. Referring to the backlash D&G got over the idea of “synthetic children” via IVF and the like, they claim that “We Are ‘Synthetic Children’.” They write:

Those of us conceived non-traditionally are full human beings with equal capacity in every regard—no one need question our humanity. It is not our individual, case-by-case worth as humans that is debatable; rather, it is how we value human beings in general that warrants discussion. Has anyone asked John for how much he purchased his kids? How much money he and Furnish paid the boy’s genetic and birth mother for their absence and invisibility?
Has anyone asked Elton John for how much he purchased his kids?
I (Alana) remember when I was in school and I told my then-best friend the truth about my conception. When our friendship frayed, as tween friendships do, she released my secret as gossip—invisible, quiet, and as poisonous as carbon monoxide fumes—and I became the “test-tube girl.” The label was humiliating.
Later, in a college English class we studied “Brave New World,” and it immediately became one of my favorite works of fiction, up there with “Gattaca.” What we were essentially studying was what it means to be human. My classroom was located in Cupertino, California, and even in my liberal environment the teacher and students took heed at Huxley’s warning against manufactured people and the “outdated” nature of mothers. The class was angry at the possibility of such a world—they felt that their humanity and most important relationships (like the one with their mothers and fathers) were being threatened. The din got to a point where I had to raise my hand and speak up. I was 17 years old. I barely understood myself, let alone the world, and I said simply and defensively, “I was conceived with reproductive technologies.”
The class was silent for a very long time. Finally, a boy sitting next to me offered solemnly, “Well, she seems like a perfectly fine human being—maybe we shouldn’t be so hysteric.”
I am indeed a human being. My liver, heart, hair, and enzymes all work the same. I’ve discovered it is my psychology that is different and not-quite-right, due to my conception. It’s not a matter for doctors to fix; it’s a spiritual problem. My father accepted money, and promised to have nothing to do with me. My mother was wonderful and I have always loved her deeply, as she has loved me. But my journey is a battle against the void left by my father’s absence, and a particular disability in understanding the difference between sacred and commercial, exploitation and cooperation. Those torments for me far outweigh any social stigma or momentarily painful gossip I’ve endured from ignorant people.
For children whose genetic or birth mother’s absence has been commissioned, they will ask, “Where is my mother?”

Ah, finally some truth in advertising here. I encourage you to read fully all their sad stories. They are the real victims of the homosexual social engineering agenda. They are the ones who should have a voice here. They are the ones whose opinions should matter the most in this debate.

But up until now it has all been about the lusts, cravings and desire of selfish adults. No one seems to give a rip about the wellbeing of the children. So thank you so much D&G and all these other super-courageous individuals for coming out of the closet and speaking truth. Of course there will be hell to pay for daring to do this.

But they obviously feel that it is worth it. And they are quite right. We owe it to all children to stand up for them and consider how they fare in all this gender bender madness. May many more such brave souls come forth and heroically speak truth.

Afterword

It seems the hypocrisy of the militants knows no bounds. Just a day after Elton John manically pushed for a boycott of D&G, he was spotted carrying… yes, a D&G bag.

askthebigot.com/2015/03/16/dear-dolce-gabbana-a-letter-of-support-from-children-of-gays-and-lesbians/
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3001703/Another-mom-never-replaced-father-lost-Woman-raised-lesbian-moms-comes-against-gay-marriage.html
thefederalist.com/2015/03/17/dear-gay-community-your-kids-are-hurting/
thefederalist.com/2015/03/19/we-are-synthetic-children-and-we-agree-with-dolce-gabbana/
chicksontheright.com/blog/item/27888-this-is-how-elton-john-does-boycotts-y-all

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14 Responses to Let the Children Speak

  • Very powerful testimonies.

  • Thanks Bill for the information. We need to flood the State government with this article and ask them why they are so stupid to ignore the obvious. Andrews has said again he is committed to equality for queers, bugger the children. Lets raise merry hell.

  • Thanks for this Bill. We have just sent our emails on SSM to our Senators and could wish we had read this article which would have enabled us to strengthen our NO case. However I am encouraged that we seem to have used the right arguments. How many times do we learn of folk, despite loving their adoptive parent, desperate to find their biological parents? No socially responsible government should even contemplate legislating for children to be robbed of their biological identities.

  • Thanks for this Bill, Very sobering remarks really that any sensible society would do well to fully pay attention to. Unfortunately we don’t live in sensible societies these days. I met American Prof Bobby Lopez early last year. His testimony of struggling with being raised by a female same-sex couple sounds very similar to these stories.

  • Why do we allow ourselves to be hoodwinked into following the lead of corrupt minorities such as homosexuals? Homosexuals are homosexuals are homosexuals! What the hell has “gay” got to do with homosexuality?

    Talk about sheep to follow blindly in single file and now we are handing them our little lambs so that these corrupt individuals can convince us that they are normal and we are bigots.

    I say enough is enough and the first port of call is that we call a spade a spade and correct anyone to tries to deceive us. After all, homosexuality has a parallel with HIV virus, they both seek to deceive.

  • “Gay” is wishful thinking. The fact is, they’re the saddest bunch in any community. I refuse to ever use the word “gay” to describe an abomination. I’ve been on a personal crusade for many years now to take back my language. I’m so fed up with every second word I use having some kind of sick innuendo attached to it. Gay means happy and carefree!

  • Thanks Bill – yet another timely warning.

    The ACL is also wanting people to contact their MPs and ask them to hold the line on marriage when it being debated this Thursday. There is a lot of pressure to force the Liberals to allow a conscience vote on the matter, which will severely split the party I suspect.
    Allowing a conscience vote will mean that individual MPs will come under enormous pressure by gay activists.
    It will also mean they have their energy and time taken up with this one single matter and may be ‘fatigued’ into conceding. This will be a terrible outcome.
    If you do not want your MPs being harangued and bullied then write to the party and tell them to stand firm on marriage and not to allow a conscience vote.
    more details:
    preservingmarriage.acl.org.au/

    Thanks again Bill and God Bless you for all you do in sounding the alarms,
    Annette

  • Bill, this topic and related ones were raised several times at the Commission on the Status of Women at the United Nations in New York, which concluded today. Jennifer Lahl has produced three films on these topics.
    Breeders: a subclass of women
    Anonymous Father’s Day, and
    Eggsploitation
    Large crowds of mostly young people attended each of the Events where these films were shown. It is great that so many are able to see past the commercial hype that surrounds these practices and realise we cannot treat people as commodities.
    Jane Munro

  • Mark. You mention the coming week as being important in Oz for marriage. Likewise here in the UK there is about to be heard an important test case in court this coming week.
    It is all about a Christian Bakery in N. Ireland refusing to bake a cake bearing a “gay” slogan for an LGBT group in NI.
    An equality watchdog has been warned it will face an avalanche of cases if it wins its civil action against a Christian-owned bakery, Ashers, in Northern Ireland which refused to decorate a cake with a pro-gay marriage slogan.
    The implications for further adverse results for Christians have been outlined by the defending QC, which I reproduce here as the case will, depending on the outcome, bring much wider implications beyond the UK I think.
    The legal opinion on the matter by the QC
    outlines the dramatic consequences which could follow if Ashers Baking Company loses.

    A huge number of businesses may decide to turn away custom based on their firmly-held beliefs.

    Ashers is being dragged through the courts for refusing to make a cake with the words “Support Gay Marriage”.

    If Ashers loses there would also be no defence to similar actions being taken against other businesses in any of the following scenarios:
    •A Muslim printer refusing a contract requiring the printing of cartoons of the Prophet Mohammed
    •An atheist web designer refusing to design a website presenting as scientific fact the claim that God made the world in six days
    •A Christian film company refusing to produce a “female-gaze/feminist” erotic film
    •A Christian baker refusing to take an order to make a cake celebrating Satanism
    •A T-shirt company owned by lesbians declining to print T-shirts with a message describing gay marriage as an “abomination”
    •A printing company run by Roman Catholics declining an order to produce adverts calling for abortion on demand to be legalised.

    He said: “This is a truly alarming case with far-reaching implications for freedom of speech. It’s wrong for the law to force people to say things they don’t believe.

    “It’s wrong to force people to use their creative skills to promote a cause they fundamentally disagree with.

    “Ashers serve “gay” customers all the time. But they didn’t want to promote gay marriage.

    Clearly the case will have huge implications for religious liberty, and not least free speech and the right NOT to associate those with whom one fundamentally disagrees.
    In effect if the case is lost, then it would criminalise the holding of an opinion. And incidentally, it has nothing to do with the pretended cause of “equality”
    (Bill, sorry for the length of this, but I thought it worth informing your readership on this)
    Graham Wood (UK)

  • The slogan “Equality for queers. Bugger the children.” sums up the flawed logic behind same sex marriage. Heterosexual marriage was originally enshrined in law to protect the progeny of a woman and man in a faithful life-time partnership for the child’s welfare. How do homosexuals want to be equal with heterosexuals when they call heterosexuals “straights” and themselves “queer or gay”? Clearly there is a difference of their own making. The disregard of a child’s human rights, when a biological mother or biological father sells her/his biology to facilitate a baby for a barren same-sex couple, deliberately dispossessing the child, shows breath-taking selfishness. Then to say to the child “it’s no big deal” compounds the pain and treats the child as a commodity. My heart goes out to those children who are made to feel grateful for the deprivation of one of their parents through no fault of their own. It puts them in an awkward position. It’s an injustice perpetrated from the top-down, with collusion by governments, the judiciary, and activist groups.

  • Thanks Bill for your eye-opening article “Let the Children Speak.” One growing up without a father and a mother figure is tough and very tough indeed. One out of every three children in the US lives in a home without a father. As I read this article I can feel the pain and heartache from these women crying out for help from the inside, “where are my father and my mother?” Some might be even angry with themselves, with their parents, and with God and blamed God whom they don’t know. Women who grow up without a father often seek comfort in men. When a child grows up without a father, there is an empty place where someone must stand, providing an example of character, confidence, and guidance for life. There are motherless and fatherless young men and women who have never received love from their biological parents due to many reasons happening in their lives, were touched by the love of God coming to faith in Christ. They experienced a profound love from God and for the first time in their lives they called God as their heavenly Father. The love of God made them feel accepted, secure, loved, and stronger from the inside out each day and they experienced their heavenly Father will hold them tight, support, guide, teach, hug, protect and love them with all his heart.

    If you are growing up without a father or a mother and you read this above article and you see yourself in a similar situation. I pray that the Lord God will heal your pain, your heart, your life, your soul and made you whole. I want to let you know there is a Father who is in heaven who loves you so much and he wants you to know him and experience his love. You are delight of his heart. You are made for God and created for eternity. You are conceived in the mind of God, loved by Him from all eternity and through all eternity. God knows you inside out, your every hair, every bone, every thought and intention. He has put eternity in your heart, loves you before you were even born into the world, when you were only a tiny thought in His mind. You are a beautiful son and daughter of God and you are of immense worth to God that is why Christ died for you on the cross 2000 years ago in Jerusalem to save you from sins. Believe in Christ Jesus and you will be saved and you will find life, forgiveness, and personal relationship with him and live! When you leave this temporary world you will go to live with Christ forever and ever in heaven! Remember that your self-worth doesn’t depend on your intelligence, intellectual abilities, attractiveness, education, money, powers, achievements, fame, and fortune but on God’s love and his everlasting love in Christ alone! May the Lord God bless you and give you peace! Shalom!

  • Well I’ve been boycotting Elton John for many years now. Take note radio stations – if Elton John comes on I change station. I got rid of his albums years back. I don’t care how rich he is he is still scum for doing that to kids and surrogacy is evil.

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